The Glass House
Part 7: Non-Inclusiveness
Make Yourself At Home
Conversely, I am quite sure black churches can be extremely
intimidating to white visitors. Our services are very long and very loud. Most white churches
I’ve visited have 90-minute services and keep the music down to
the level of a transistor radio. $125,000 state-of-the-art sound
system made to sound like Radio Shack. Our churches actually
have Radio Shack and we blast it. It sounds terrible, but the
pastor’s wife needs to hear herself screeching above the blaring
Hammond organ. For the uninitiated, this sounds like violence.
The hollering, the pastor snarling and beating up the pulpit
before, inexplicably, bursting into song—the Hammond backing him
up with bursts of blues chords—this is likely very strange to
whites, Latinos and Asians. Which is why we rarely see any
whites or Latinos or Asians in our congregation. When these
folks do visit, to my experience, black churches are even
worse at making these folks feel welcome than white churches
are. White churches tend to make me feel like a visitor—welcome
to visit but not urged to stay. Black churches, on the other
hand, have a smiling handshake, but it is the greeting of a
Cobra. There’s a lot of anger in the black community, anger most
whites may feel is irrational considering they themselves have
done nothing to harm any of us. But we have been harmed
nonetheless, and that anger informs every smile, every
handshake. Whites receive hostility from us on a visceral level.
Not only do they not feel welcome, it is likely they feel
unwanted.
A white brother got angry with me about preaching about a
specific church’s proud African American roots, about the
challenges black churches face. This brother found me after
service and, red with anger, snarled at me, “This is MY church,
too!” He was proud to be a member there, and he didn’t
appreciate my preaching about “the black church this and the
black church that.” I smiled and embraced him and told him I
loved him. And, of course, he was right: he was a member there,
that church belonged to all of them. And it was my mistake not
to acknowledge that. But I reassured him I was talking about the
history of that church, a church founded in African American
tradition. Simply acknowledging that tradition does not, must
not, imply whites are not welcome there. That was wrong of me.
But I also asked the brother to acknowledge—I mean, look
around—this was a black church. Now, because of you, because of
members like yourself, it’s grown to be even more than a “black”
church. It’s now a “church,” without requiring the modifier:
God’s house, a church for all nations [Mark 11:17].
Diversity is a tricky business.
Muzzling ourselves, pretending we’re not a
black church, just makes us look stupid. It is insincere and
comes across as a lie. Of course we’re a black church. But we can
and should be more than that. I’m never, ever going to censor
myself in the pulpit about our cultural beginnings, but I should
acknowledge cultural diversity and growth and be inclusive of
all who worship there.
As
difficult as it is for white pastors to broaden the cultural
voice of their worship experience, it is likely exponentially
more difficult for black pastors. Incorporating what we might
consider “white” music into our stomp-and-shout worship
experience can lead to severe divisions within the church body.
Many black congregants feel our black church is our cultural
weigh station: one of an increasingly few things that are
uniquely ours. Salting in “white” praise music can be seen to
diminish that uniqueness, and the “white” flavor of that music
may actually stir up deep-seated race anger and bitterness.
Congregants may not express it in those terms, many will just
say, “I don’t like that mess,” but what they mean is, “I’ve
suffered racism all of my life and this music is the music of my
oppressor. It belittles me and invades the one place where I can
truly be who I am.”
Broadening your church’s cultural base will, therefore, be a
coal-walk experience. It should begin, first and foremost, with
teaching. Pastors: try as you might, you cannot teach on
Wednesdays. On Tuesdays or Thursdays. You can’t teach fifteen
folk at your church and call yourself a teacher. Until our folk
learn the value, the importance of teaching, the majority of
them will not come out for Bible Study. Like it or not, your
best shot at educating people, at changing lives, is Sunday
morning worship. Most pastors I know hate to give up their hoop
time for tasks like teaching, and feel like a lot of what we
need to say should be kept “in the family” and not for public
consumption. So, our pastors wait for Wednesday where they talk
to fifteen people and call that “teaching the church.” Pastors:
teaching needs to happen where the students are. The students
are in your congregation Sundays at eleven.
Teaching on diversity should probably start with clips of the
film Amistad. It has to begin by directly engaging our
membership on the issue of hate. The nature of hate, its
origins, how it got there, how deeply-embedded it is. How it’s
not going away anytime soon. Preaching on hate, especially race
hate, about why it is wrong, but moreso, how we can cope with it
because eliminating it completely is not likely to happen. And
anybody who tells you otherwise is lying to you; the
institutionalized nature of racism means this stuff is embedded
in our cultural DNA. I’ve heard lots of pastors preaching about
how we should let that stuff go, the old hatred. But it’s in
there, in the rings of the tree, and that’s naďve preaching from
a naďve pastor. This is our true struggle: not just for equality
but for freedom from hate. Your church, white or black, can
never become truly multicultural, can never become truly
inclusive, until we all understand this hate, confront this
hate, give this hatred over to the ministry of the Holy Spirit.
Until we directly engage the things that divide us, we’re just
kidding ourselves. And, as long as we’re kidding ourselves, our
churches won’t grow.
Once
we’ve taught on hatred and ministered to one another about
hatred, inviting church groups in from white churches to perform
special music and preach and teach, conducting pulpit exchanges,
our congregations visiting their churches: this is key to
de-sensitizing our congregations—white and black—to matters of
race. It’s a process, where white believers become less
frightened of us, and we become less hostile toward them.
After that, the most painful part: modifying our traditions. Not
letting go of our traditions, but adding on to them. Not
watering our traditions down, but allowing that tradition to
find broader expression and, perhaps, deeper meaning, by adding
facets of other traditions to ours.
As we’ve discussed previously,
the church needs to minister to the
community in which it is physically located. Many of our
churches have “commuter” congregations who drive in, holler and
shout, and drive away, leaving a bewildered neighborhood
wondering what all the fuss was about. Here in Ourtown, many of
our black churches are located in lower-class neighborhoods
where real estate was cheap, and the surrounding blocks are
populated by whites and Latinos. And, because the demographic is
white and Latino, many of our churches haven’t even *tried* to
include them in the goings-on at our churches.
Some of our churches here have opened their doors to
Spanish-speaking ministries, and that’s a great start. But, if
your church isn’t even fellowshipping with the Spanish-speaking
ministry that meets within its doors, you’re just kidding
yourself about church growth or, frankly, about even *being* a
church. Inviting Latinos and other cultures into your church is
a great thing to do. Building a wall between you and them is
incredibly wrongheaded.
Making room for new family—permanent visitors—is tough. It’s as
tough as getting married. Most couples really don’t fully
appreciate the shock to the system marriage can be. Two people,
with two different patterns of when and where and how they do
things, where they keep things, music they like, places they
like to go, two completely different sets of friends to invite
over or to go visit: without preparation for all of that, most
marriages have enormous problems early on because he loves her
and she loves him and, even though they’re driving each other
insane, no one wants to hurt the other’s feelings so nobody says
anything until somebody’s walking out.
The
only thing worse than our churches’ tradition of
non-inclusiveness would be for us to go about increasing
diversity in a stupid way. Before you invite new relatives in to
live with you, you need to properly prepare for the systemic
shock of different voices and different ways. As unfair and
ridiculous as it is for white churches to eliminate all culture
from their worship, it is also ridiculous for us to ask other
cultures to join with us just to take their money, while we ask
them to remain silent, gagged and bound, while we have OUR
church service. That’s Diversity For Morons. It is insincere,
and people can smell that.
Perhaps the biggest hurdle, of course,
is not cultural diversity but sexual orientation.
As I mentioned in
this essay series, homophobia is, perhaps, the last acceptable
American bigotry. We will surely march on city hall and overturn
busses if somebody called us a nigger, but we—all of us, white,
black, Latino, Asian, Native American, Christian, Jew, Muslim,
Gnostic—freely and somewhat openly discriminate against gays. As
bad as it is for whites and other ethnicities within our
churches, where they have precious little voice, same-gender
loving people have virtually no voice at all. It is simply not
spoken of. But they are here, they are with us. They are our
sisters, our brothers, our fathers, our mothers, our cousins.
Sometimes, they are our spouses. The church that truly believes
it has no gay people in it is just kidding itself. It has chosen
to either embrace cultural elimination or, worse, encourage
people to lie in the name of the Lord.
Gay hatred is fairly inexplicable to me, though I myself have
been prone to it. That’s the subject of
another essay, but I have to assume we hate gays because we
fear them; that it is, in fact, fear moreso than hatred that
creates this enormous discomfort and visceral dynamic.
Judeo-Christian religions have traditionally condemned gays
according to both Levitcal law and Pauline teaching [Romans 1],
the latter giving evidence of God’s condemnation of same-sex
relationships surviving past the Dispensation of the Law. I do
not propose to have any answers for you or any wonderful
illumination on how to solve this problem of non-inclusivity.
Gay hatred is embedded at perhaps an even deeper emotional level
than race hatred, and a pastor is often combating a lifetime of
pew-sitting in his congregants who have not studied much at all
of the Bible, and whose moral structure is, therefore,
constructed out of bits and pieces of stuff they done heard
somewhere. In 40+ years in the black church, I’ve known only one
pastor to do any kind of in-depth study of biblical teaching on
homosexuality that wasn’t terribly biased and ignorant. I could
write you an encyclopedia of pros and cons about gay
inclusivity, and it wouldn’t make much difference: if I condemn
homosexuality, I’m usually applauded. If I question that
condemnation, in even small ways, I am presumed to be
homosexual. It is the classic McCarthyesque witch hunt: decry
the unfairness and ignorance of persecuting Communists, and you
yourself must be a Communist.
In terms of gay inclusivity, there are two immediate and
disturbing practices: first is the Don’t Ask Don’t Tell school
of thought, which, while not usually being a literal ordinance
of the church, tends to be in place in many if not most of our
church communities. Just ignore it. Don’t ask them about it, and
as long as gay folks do not openly say they are gay, they are
welcome to worship. After all, church should not be about who
you’re sleeping with, anyway. But, the problem there is we are
demanding that gay folk remain silent, gagged and bound, while
we have OUR church service. We are asking people to deny who
they are, who they love, what their lives are like. This is not
ministry. This leads to terrible consequences of self-hatred
because that’s what our churches are teaching.
The opposite problem is this: pastors not preaching or teaching
on the subject. Well, unless they are gay-bashing, which is
usually fairly well accepted. Not preaching God’s word, or
leaving out certain issues because they make us uncomfortable,
is more than wrong. It is, in fact, an abomination [Rev 22:19].
“Abomination” means it denies the holiness of God. I believe it
is wrong to discriminate against gays. I also believe it is
wrong to not preach what the old folks used to call the “Full”
Gospel: preach all of it. It is not our duty to be politically
correct or to police ourselves: it is our duty to educate the
people about the ways of God, the word of God. It is then up to
the hearer to work out his or her own soul’s salvation [Phil
2:12], which implies it is not the church’s responsibility to
police moral behavior. To send thugs over your house to see who
you’re sleeping with. To vote it out. To go shoot people or burn
folks at the stake. Our charge is to preach [2 Tim 4:2], to
educate, to enlighten. Beyond that we are all made creatures of
free will.
It is important to separate homosexuality from homosexuals. The
religious right tends to blur that distinction, condemning gay
people, when the bible itself condemns gay practice. The bible
also condemns a lot of other things —most loudly,
divorce. And we not only affirm remarried couples, but we have
entire ministries that see to the needs of divorced people.
Jesus Christ Himself condemned divorce [Luke 16:18] while saying
not one recorded word about homosexuals. But we minister to one
group of sinners while loathing and hating the other. Our
ministry to homosexuals tends to be mostly useless attempts to
“reorient” them, which is ignorance and ultimately selfish.
Many of our churches have ministries for alcoholics, for drug
abusers, for special needs people. But the support group for gay
persons is a rare thing, as many of our congregants would surely
object to their tithing dollars being spent to give comfort to
practicing homosexuals.
These
objections remain in place, pastor, because you’re not preaching
on this. You’re not teaching on it because you’re probably
scared to teach on it. Or you, too, are so immersed in centuries
of ignorant bigotry that you have no interest in teaching on
homosexuality other than to condemn it. But this is an issue the
black church must confront, must take seriously. We cannot
ignore this forever, and, whatever side of the fence you fall
on, the thing we should all agree about is hatred is wrong,
Bigotry is wrong. The doors to God’s house must, MUST, be open
to ALL people [Matt 11:12-18], and all people need Jesus Christ in their
lives. Beginning a bible study for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual
and Transgendered community (LGBT), led by a gay minister or
layman, would likely alarm and divide the church. Personally,
I’ve always thought an alarmed church to be a good thing, and
division isn’t always bad as it is the ignorant folk who usually
hit the road first. But, like inviting whites into your
congregation, this would take serious preparation and education.
A church's LGBT ministry would not exist to either condone or condemn
homosexual practice—as only God can condone or condemn—and its
existence should not be an indicator of the church's affirmation
of homosexuality any more than a specialized ministry for spina
bifida suffers would affirm that suffering. A ministry—any
ministry—should exist to see to the needs of those ministered
to—homosexual persons, who deserve our love, our
patience, our compassion and our friendship, regardless of your
church's doctrinal position on homosexual practice. Jesus
fed the five thousand without first asking if there were any
homosexuals out on that hill. You can't sell me on the idea that
Jesus fed only the straight folk, or that there were no gay
people in that crowd. Therefore, it is reasonable to suggest
Jesus first saw to the needs of the people—of all the
people—without judgment, without some means test, before He
preached to them. This is our biblical model and our
responsibility to see to the needs of everyone within our doors.
Whatever your position on the issue, beloved, we must learn to
separate the sin from the sinner. If you have a ministry for
divorced persons, there’s no sound doctrinal basis for not
having a group that provides support and encouragement for LGBT
persons, to give them a voice and to offer them a home.
Diversity—whether cultural or sexual—implies risk. It is
impossible for your church to embrace inclusivity without
growing pains, without strife, without fuss. It won’t be a
perfect process or a neat one. It will, in fact, be violent; an
eruption in the status quo and an earthquake to business as
usual. But it moves your church away from being a social club,
having a form of godliness, and closer to embracing the actual
mission of the church: to be a house for all nations. And it is
a vital component required to help your church grow.
Christopher J. Priest
27 July 2008
editor@praisenet.org
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