Choice
Where Should We Stand?
Conservative Christians make no bones about it: abortion is murder.
Period. The end. They do a head-feint toward sympathy for those
suffering from guilt over their choice, but the conservative
doctrine is mostly about scare tactics and reprobation, often
extending into freshly-minted incomprehensible sin like arson
and, yes, even murder of doctors who perform abortion. Religious
fervor over this issue can often manifest itself as hate, which
forces even more women underground even within their own church
communities. These women suffer in silence, putting on the brave
face for the communal lashing out against abortionists while
hemorrhaging psychologically over their own secrets.
None of this, none of it, is the function of a loving God.
“New radical [and] blatantly
unconstitutional anti- abortion laws have generated a lot of
headlines from the great states of Arkansas, North Dakota, [and]
Kansas. In Kansas, the Republican legislature just passed an
anti-abortion “personhood” bill late on Friday. It declares that
life begins at fertilization. Yes, all three states are
advancing abortion bans with legislation like this, but Kansas
goes an extra step. Kansas law mandates that doctors have to
describe to their patients an unproven, scientifically dubious
made-up link between abortion and breast cancer. There is no
link between abortion and breast cancer, but the state of Kansas
wrote this script and will now mandate that doctors read this
lie to their patients. The bill now goes to Sam Brownback, the
state's Republican governor. According to a spokesperson, he is
almost certain to sign it even though he hasn't read it yet.
Governor Brownback said he will sign any anti-abortion bill and
so far he has kept to his word.
“Republican Tom Corbett is the governor of Pennsylvania. But if
his name rings a bell in terms of national news attention, it
may be because last year about this time Governor Tom Corbett
was asked what he thought of a proposed Republican bill that
would force Pennsylvania women seeking an abortion to undergo a
medically unnecessary vaginal ultrasound with the ultrasound
screen intentionally turned toward them. About that, Governor
Corbett offered this advice: ‘[I] wouldn't change it as long as
it's not obtrusive.’ ‘Making them watch, does that go too far in
your mind?’ ‘I don't know how you make anybody watch because you
just have to close your eyes. But as long as it's on the
exterior, not interior.’
“Just close your eyes. Governor Tom Corbett did not go on to do
a whole lot of campaigning with Republican presidential ticket
last year, even with Pennsylvania being an important swing
state. He wasn't exactly driven out of the party but he is one
of the least popular governors in the entire country, and he is
up for re-election next year. How do you run against that? How
do you run against, ‘Don't worry, you can just shut your eyes?’
What would a campaign against Tom Corbett look like?”
—Rachel Maddow,
The Rachel Maddow Show, April 8, 2013
Like most sex-related sin, much of what the church does
concerning abortion is a misguided attempt to help God out, to
fill in the blanks where scripture is silent and to exact
vengeance in God’s name on unspeakable behavior. We pick up our
flaming sword and we march here and march there and flash giant
placards of mangled fetuses and point and condemn. Pro-life
protesters, many if not most of whom claim to be Christians,
seem vengeful, hateful and full of wrath. They bully, they
threaten, they use scare tactics, displaying unimaginably
horrific photos where young children can see them. The church,
as Pastor Gregory Boyd points out, should look like Christ. As
heinous and wrong as abortion is, I find no evidence that Jesus
Christ would have conducted Himself the way these people do.
Moreover, the extremist irrationality demonstrated by these
people tends to polarize rather than convict. It really doesn't
convince anyone to move past their position, but rather offends
and puts off and gets everyone dug in to whatever side of the
issue they are on. Hate does not inspire dialogue, and most
Pro-Life activism is designed to be loud and revolting.
Beyond that, the Christian right, most specially, exploits and
politicizes the issue of abortion in order to further their
agenda, which seems to be to enforce Christian ethics on
America, which many evangelicals insist is a Christian nation.
Pastor Boyd, himself a Christian conservative, responds to that
issue much more eloquently than I could, and I urge you to
listen to his statements about the issue. The Christian right
routinely elect unspiritual, godless individuals based solely on
one issue—abortion, and define their choices for high court
justices based on the judges' position on a single
issue—abortion. Conservative Christians have developed a kind of
snow blindness to the complexity of God’s creation, narrowing
the vibrant chorus of God’s voice to a single note—abortion.
They paralyze God’s hand, His loving, gentle, kind hand, by
limiting His sovereignty, His holiness, His purpose for mankind
to a single issue—abortion.
The church cannot, should not, must not be solely about a single
issue. Let alone a single issue of which Jesus never spoke,
about which the bible is silent. And this is Satan’s tool
against the church: to paralyze our vocal chords to the point
where our vibrant harmony becomes a single, shrill note:
abortion. The mission of the church is not to stop abortion. The
mission of the church is not to enact laws, banish things or
punish the guilty. The mission of the church is to create
disciples. We’ve got our mission confused. The church is not the
arm of God’s vengeance. It is the measure of God’s love. Which
is not to say that we should endorse terrible wrongs, but that
we should keep our eye on the ball. Jesus Himself existed in a
terribly corrupt and cruel society. King Herod, fearful of
Christ’s ministry, ordered the equivalent of abortion of every
male baby under two years of age [Matthew 2]. Mary and Joseph
hid Jesus in Egypt until Herod was dead. Jesus never spoke about
Herod’s crime, about the thousands of babies killed in an effort
to stop His ministry. Jesus didn’t form any picket lines. Didn’t
start any petitions. Didn’t push for a ballot referendum. Didn’t
choose His disciples based on who was pro-life.
Jesus didn’t allow sin, no matter how heinous, to paralyze His
ministry. His ministry was not about fixing a corrupt world, it
was about reconciling mankind to God. Our two extremes here seem
to be that abortion is an issue that virtually paralyzes the
ministry of the white church while it is rarely even spoken of
in the black church. Both extremes are wrong.
The church should be concerned with abortion to this end: more
women have had one than you can possibly imagine. 42 million per
year, 115,000 per day worldwide. 1996 estimates: 1.37 million
per year, 3,700 per day in the United States. 1% of all
abortions occur because of rape or incest; 6% of abortions occur
because of potential health problems regarding either the mother
or child, and 93% of all abortions occur for social reasons
(i.e. the child is unwanted or inconvenient). 52% of women
obtaining abortions in the U.S. are younger than 25: Women aged
20-24 obtain 32% of all abortions; Teenagers obtain 20% and
girls under 15 account for 1.2%. While white women obtain 60% of
all abortions, their abortion rate is well below that of
minority women. Black women are more than 3 times as likely as
white women to have an abortion, and Hispanic women are roughly
2 times as likely. Women identifying themselves as Protestants
obtain 37.4% of all abortions in the U.S.; Catholic women
account for 31.3%, Jewish women account for 1.3%, and women with
no religious affiliation obtain 23.7% of all abortions. 18% of
all abortions are performed on women who identify themselves as
"Born-again/Evangelical". [Stats: The Center for Bio-Ethical
Reform] Click here to download PDF.
Women in your pews. Women in your Sunday School. Old women.
Pre-teens. The holocaust of the unborn is likely larger and more
widespread than pastors could imagine. It is also
disproportionately our holocaust—the black church. The abortion
ratio for black women (491 per 1,000 live births, or nearly
one-half—one-half—of black pregnancies end in abortion) was 3.0
times the ratio for white women (165 per 1,000), and the ratio
for women of the nonhomogeneous "other" race category (347 per
1,000) was 2.1 times the ratio for white women. The abortion
rate for black women (29 per 1,000 women) was 2.9 times the rate
for white women (10 per 1,000), and the abortion rate for women
of other races (19 per 1,000 women) was 2.0 times the rate for
white women. [Stats: The U.S. Centers for Disease Control]
The Ostrich Method
Abortion is now at a 30-year low, down 33% since 1980 with the
largest falloff being in white adult women (ABC News). I would
imagine this owes largely to education and to developments in
birth control. The AIDS epidemic has led to an exponential
increase in the use of condoms—even when other birth control
devices are used. All of which has led to reductions in abortion
rates among this demographic. Lower income and minority women,
however, have less access to those resources, and teens and
minority women continue reckless behaviors, having unprotected
sex in spite of access to birth control and family planning
information. Much of that recklessness likely owes to issues of
low self-esteem. pressure from a boyfriend, or simple laziness.
Many kids simply don't read. They think they know it all or they
believe it'll never happen to them. Many silly high school girls
believe he'll pull out in time or they can douche after and
preempt pregnancy. I'm not making this stuff up. More high
school girls than you'd imagine still believe the foolishness
that giving her boyfriend sex will keep him around, and getting
themselves knocked up will lock him in. Many if not most
sexually active teens, including a frightening number of
Christian teens, are engaging in oral sex and even anal sex in
the misguided belief that these activities aren't "real" sex,
that since they can't get pregnant they've maintained their
purity. This foolish, dangerous thinking is a direct consequence
of the failure of parents to parent their children or to
communicate with them on any level. Many parents just abandon
their teens to this fantasy camp, the parents assuming the
school is teaching them what they need to know and assuming (or
hoping) their child will put that knowledge to good use.
Mom—she's a kid. Kids are slackers. Kids are lazy. Kids won't
even clean their room, and you're depending on her to remain
celibate, or, failing that, to insist he uses a condom? Mommies
who refuse to even discuss these things with their kids on the
grounds that they demand their child not have sex, or, even more
idiotic, that they fear simply providing this information will
encourage their child to have sex, are simply rolling the dice
with their child's future. This is the Ostrich Method of
parenting, which leads to your child, alone and frightened in
the clinic waiting room.
Jennifer Manlove, Suzanne Ryan, and Kerry Franzetta from the
organization, Child Trends, published research in the journal,
Demography (August 2007), that analyzed data from high school
students to help identify patterns of contraceptive use. Key
findings from this study reveal:
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Many teens use contraception inconsistently. In fact, in 4 out of 10 relationships, teens inconsistently used contraception or never used any birth control at all.
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Teenagers’ contraceptive consistency varies across their sexual relationships.
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Teens continue habits from previous relationships. Those who consistently used birth control in a previous relationship are more likely to do so in a current one. This implies that teens may learn from their relationship experiences.
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Female teens who chose sexual partners who were more similar to themselves, particularly in age, had higher odds of always using contraceptives.
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Teens involved in romantic relationships were more likely to use birth control at least once but were less likely to use it consistently (perhaps, the researchers argue, because they may regard a pregnancy more favorably).
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Teens who are older when they first have sex are more likely to use contraception but were less likely to use it every time that they had sex.
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Teens who view their relationships as "romantic" and who spend more time with their partners in dating activities are more likely to use birth control, suggesting that being involved in a more serious relationship may be beneficial as teens may feel more comfortable negotiating (and thus using) contraception with romantic partners as opposed to casual partners.
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Female teens who discuss contraception with their partners before sex are twice as likely to practice safe sex. In fact, 62% of female teens and 51% of male teens who discussed birth control with their partners before having sex for the first time reported always using contraception.
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Teens who engage in a high number of relationships are less likely to consistently use contraceptives in these relationships than teens who have fewer relationships.
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Female adolescents who are using hormonal contraceptives, such as birth control pills, Depo Provera, NuvaRing and the Ortho Evra Patch showed a higher level of contraceptive consistency. Also, female teens who used a hormonal method in a previous sexual relationship were 74% more likely than female teens who used other birth control methods or no method to consistently use contraception in their subsequent relationship.
Black women make up 13% of the population but comprise 35% of
performed abortions. Abortion clinics are disproportionately
located within minority communities. Many teens and young adults
are repeat patients, using abortion as a form of birth control.
If I had a child, I'd talk to her about, first and foremost, her
relationship with Jesus Christ. Absent that spiritual foundation
in her life, all the rest of this is largely futile. This is why
abstinence programs in schools don't work: they've taken God out
of the schools. Without some moral imperative, some goal to
achieve through sexual purity, teens are simply not motivated to
ignore the overwhelming urges of their own bodies. But, for the
kid who has Christ in his life, you can begin a dialogue about
sexual purity. Not as a demand of a judge ready to condemn them
to hell, but as an offering, a sacrifice [Romans 12], which the
Apostle Paul described as our reasonable service—the least we
can do for God is remain pure.
In 40+ years in the black church, I've never, not once, heard
this idea from a black pulpit. If it is discussed at all, it's
done in small groups on Wednesdays where the bare remnants of
your church family show up for bible study and other activities.
Pastors: like it or not, the main body on your church family
attends only on Sundays. If you have anything important to say,
any life-saving information, it needs to come across the pulpit
on Sunday morning. We're hollering and catching vapors, rolling
in the aisles while our teens tune out, sitting in the back
texting one another and carrying burdens both immense and
obscene. It's easy to get up and shake your fist, pastor, but
check your rearview. First: this is our mess. This is our doing.
We're holding teens to a moral standard most of us do not
ourselves maintain and we abandon them at the time of their
lives when sex is on their brains twenty-four hours a day.
You're on your own, kid. Good luck. Most churches would throw a
pastor out if he advocated giving out condoms and birth control
pills, information on STD's and other Abstinence Plus materials.
That's because most churches put morality (how we think people
should live) above ministry (seeing to their needs
regardless)—something Jesus never did. Jesus allowed the
prostitute to anoint him with perfume [John 12:2], to dry His
feet with her hair. Jesus refused to condemn the woman caught in
adultery [John 4:4], and He welcomed a thief into paradise [Luke
23:43]. But we sit in judgment, mute and impotent, while our
girls, our sisters, form long lines at these sad places.
The church's job is not to be The Morality Police. The church's
job is to create disciples. To minister to the spiritual and
physical needs of people. Without terms or conditions. Without a
morality test. Not discussing sex won't stop kids from having
sex. Not giving them condoms, birth control and information
about STD's won't stop them from having sex, it'll stop them
from having safe sex. Our ignorance is the very antithesis of
the personal example of Jesus Christ, Who was much less
concerned about someone's moral status than He was about
connecting them to God. Let's connect people to God and let God
do His job—transforming these girls, these women, through a
renewing of their minds, through an indwelling of the Holy
Spirit. Let's stop judging. Stop folding our arms. Let's stop
trying to help God out by looking down our nose at people who
need us.
I know, personally, dozens of church pastors. I’ve never, not
one single time, had a conversation—not one—about abortion, an
issue that should absolutely keep pastors up at night. Not for
political reasons, but because people are suffering. On your
watch. Under your nose. Within the sound of your voice on
Sunday, there’s at least a half-dozen sisters who have either
had an abortion or who feel abortion is the only solution to
their problem. All around town, girls, women, are crying. Are
walking the floor. Hiding their pain and suffering. And they
can’t even call the pastor. They’re too ashamed. They feel God
has deserted them, that human weakness has led them to a place
of unbearable sorrow, sorrow made all that much worse by their
solution to it. And their pastors are snoring. He’s done his
part: he’s pushed for that ballot amendment. He’s condemned the
practice form the pulpit.
Pastors: Jesus never asked you to condemn anything. He asked you to feed His sheep, to find those lost ones up in the middle of the night, lying to their kids, to their husband. Oh, I’m just a little restless. She’s suffering, pastor. And most of us are simply tone deaf to this suffering because it does not readily present itself to us. But, I guarantee you, in your church, on your watch, there are women and girls drowning in unbearable grief. Make all the McCain/Palin placards you want, God never told you to be legislators. He told you to be pastors. Putting all your energy toward political solutions to social problems simply demonstrates how out of touch with God you've become.